Isaiah 43:3-4
For I am the LORD, your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior... Since you are precious and honored in my sight, and because I love you.(NIV)
~: This study won't change who you are, but will hopefully change your perception of yourself. It is designed to be completed independently but if you ever want feedback or accountability or just someone to walk you through it more deeply, email me. It may help to keep track of your thoughts and answers in a journal. :~
Many of our perceptions of ourselves are formed while we are young. We take in what people say to us or do to us and then form opinions about ourselves based on those words or actions. Sometimes our own life experiences of success or failure develops our image also. The view one often ends up with isn't always right and many times isn't positive.
Even though you might have been influenced by others or experiences to see yourself the way you do, the final view is up to you. Only you can change how you feel about yourself. It has to come from inside, from an understanding of your strengths and of who you are in God's eyes. No one else has the power to make you less- your image is up to you.
What I will attempt to do is to give you some food for thought and some tools to work with so that you can learn to see yourself in a positive light.
Part one:
Self evaluation:
~: Write out a paragraph about who you are. Describe your basic looks, talents, abilities and/or outlook on life.
~: List 5 things that you like about yourself. (Looks, abilities, actions, or attitudes)
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~: List out 5 things that you are dissatisfied about yourself. (Looks, abilities, actions, or attitudes)
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Which list was easier to write? I would bet it would be the things that you don't like about yourself. Many people in our society, both religious and not, have mistakenly labeled confidence, feeling good about a job well done, stating true and positive things about oneself, and standing up for oneself, as pride, arrogance, and/or a rebellious attitude. So, many times people are required to have a false humility, cut themselves down or take verbal abuse by authority figures in order to be accepted. It is also human nature to see a negative thing easier than a positive.
Some values on human worth that have been stated by Claudia A. Howard are:
1. All have infinite, internal, eternal, and unconditional worth as persons.
2. All have equal worth as people. Worth is not comparative or competitive.
3. Externals, such as money, looks, or achievements, neither adds nor diminishes worth.
4. Worth is stable and not dependant on rejection or acceptance.
5. Worth doesn't have to be earned or proved. It already exists. Just recognize, accept and appreciate it.